What I would like to do today is delve into just why Trainer X is a word-meister, constantly paying explicit attention to just what people say, what they don't know they mean, and how it can affect them. I know; I must be a real charm at dinner parties.

What I would like to do today is delve into just why Trainer X is a word-meister, constantly paying explicit attention to just what people say, what they don't know they mean, and how it can affect them. I know; I must be a real charm at dinner parties.


"Just"


"Just" is the culprit and success is the victim. I recently sat with a woman for our initial consultation. It is typically during this time when people learn what working with a personal fitness coach is and - more importantly - what it isn't.


Toning doesn't exist, 40-year-old women are not getting too bulky, etc. I really end up blowing some minds here, folks. What the woman told me (and believe me, everyone tells me this) is that she "just wants to lose weight and feel great."


We all want this; it is what drives us to exercise. However, to follow the word "just" with such a daunting task as to turn back the hands of time, counter-program your body's penchant for losing muscle and gaining fat is such an egregious philosophic error. I "just" want you to read the following over and over again; don't program yourself to think that losing weight will be easy by thinking and saying anything but "I am in for the battle of my life," because you are.


"Should"


I refuse to "should" on you. Oh boy, I wish that this word would never be uttered again. It is such an aberration against those who seek to think and act. "Should" is a word that most successful people weed from their thought process and vocabulary and for good reason; it is simply too indecisive a term.


"Should I lift before cardio or vice versa?" Do either, but don't eat like you're in a contest the rest of the day. "Should" is a conditional term that is based in subjectivity - standing between choices is where "should" will get you. Making a choice will make it disappear and bring you closer to an objective end.


"At least"


As in, "At least I made it here." "At least" is a term that denotes bare minimum effort and therefore bare minimum results. Heed my warning, readers, if you are "at least-ing" your weight sessions, cardiovascular work and diet, at least you now know that you're not going to get anywhere.


If you need any help, just call me and, at the very least, I should get back to you.


Darin St. George is a personal fitness coach at Gold's Gym in Natick, Mass. Visit his Web site at www.TrainerX.com.